Total vent post completely unrelated to anything I typically blog about:

Next weekend I am in a wedding for a friend that I have known for only about 3 years. I wouldn’t call us close by any means and I was surprised (and honored) to be asked to be in her wedding. It is turning out to be a complete nightmare!!

This is her second wedding in three years, which is only important because it is the only reason I can point to for her complete ambivalence toward planning this second one. Her wedding is 2.5 hours away in the small town she grew up in (which also happens to be in the same town my grandma just bought a cabin in!!).

We had three days notice for her bridal shower, which I did not attend due to a previous engagement (duh, give me more than three days!).

Two weeks ago (three weeks before the wedding), I called her (for the fifth time) to ask about which dresses we were going to wear in the wedding(hello? It is three weeks away!!). I got, “Oh, yeah! Can you go shopping with me right now?” Ummm… no. How about you do that with your maid of honor? Two days later, I got a text saying that she just wants all of us to just go buy a dress in her color to wear in the wedding, and all of us will be different. Ok, so I acknowledge my severe need for control and order, but this is my worst nightmare. I’ve done my best to let it go, thankful that I can at least get a dress I will wear again.

On Wednesday(10 days before the wedding), I called her to ask if they were going to have a rehearsal (since it just occurred to me that there should be one and I hadn’t heard anything). She forgot to tell me (and the other girls) that it is at the place they are getting married (2.5 hours away) at 3pm the day before the wedding (a Friday). So, obviously I need to take the day off. Thanks for the 9 days notice. She then tells me that this Saturday is her bach.elorette party and since I didn’t attend her shower, she really wants me to be there. Ok, I totally respect that, even though I have zero desire to go watch a bunch of girls drink themselves silly instead of hanging out with my daughter- but again, thanks for the notice. Oh, but the bachelorette party starts at 11am at the pool… and goes until 2am the next morning when the bars close. Ummm… can I get a no thank you? So, I agreed to be there from 5-9 for the lin.gerie shower and dinner. She then asked me if I knew anyone that had four 8-foot banquet tables she could borrow. Seriously?

Today, I get a text with a photo of a shoe, saying that these are the ones she wants us all to wear. I literally almost lost it!! You don’t care if our dresses match, but our shoes need to match (to the tune of $70!!!)???? To top it off, the designer she chose doesn’t make shoes in my size (proudly a size 11!!). So I got an “it’s ok, just find a shoe close to that.” Ummm… no!! Do you know how hard it is to find shoes in my size? Well, not to hard if I just order them online, which I often do, but I would need more than 6 days notice and I am NOT spending the only day I have with my family looking for shoes that aren’t going to match everyone else’s. I will wear something from my closet thankyouverymuch!!

I am extremely irritated by the lack of communication. I probably haven’t been the best of bridesmaids up to this point because the last three months have been pretty hectic, but mostly it is because I have had to ASK about almost every detail (which since it isn’t my wedding, hasn’t been in a timely manner). I am immensely irritated, but I also feel really guilty about it because it is supposed to be her special day and at this point, I am not really that interested in the whole matter.

Grrr….