When we visited our friends in the hospital last Friday I sat there holding their four-hour-old baby. I was staring at his perfect face trying to imagine what it would be like, what if would feel like if this were my child and I was told I could take him home. I felt nothing. I couldn’t even imagine it. It was just that- a game of pretend and I couldn’t even pretend very well.
I was telling Hubbs about it on the way home and he sighed and said, “It really doesn’t feel like it is ever going to happen, does it?” It isn’t a desperate sad thing. We are doing a really good job of being outwardly excited and preparing for the unscheduled seemingly fictitious event. It is just that neither of can imagine it actually happening. It seems like a pipe-dream at this point. (The thing is that I think it is really going to knock us on our asses when it does happen.)
Then I read Rebekah’s post about her meeting with her agency and it made me really SAD! I had heard some not so great news about our agency’s statistics for 2008 (rumors) and I started to get really panicky. So I called our SW. The SW we don’t really bond with and the SW that we feel doesn’t really like us and SW that we don’t particularly like ourselves. And we had the best discussion ever! I feel a hundred times better now.
She said they had had a busy year so far (in 2009) and that since the start of their fiscal year in July, they had placed 17 babies (right on track for the average of 30 they do- and since there are only 35 families on the waiting list, those are good numbers!) She told me that we have been presented (which oddly made me feel better). She also told me that we hadn’t been presented very often because a lot of the situations were awesome situations in which everyone on the waiting list would be a good match. They only give the pregnancy clients a max of 10 profiles, so if more than 10 people match, they take the top 10 in order of seniority on the list. So, right now we may not be being presented, but as those people move off the list we gain seniority.
I realized something when I was talking to her. I don’t need a baby today or tomorrow or even next month. I am being patient, I just want to feel like it is going to happen sometime(hopefully sometime this year). I also told her that with so many pregnancy announcements in my life recently, it has made my itch a little stronger. Then we got to talking about all the pregnancies. I asked her for a little advice on helping my sister get a grip on her financial reality. I told her that my bro’s wife had just announced her pregnancy and she thought I was talking about Hubbs’ sister. I corrected her and told her that she is due to have twins in a few weeks. She says, “Oh my goodness! You poor thing! You can’t even get away from the pregnancies!” The best part is, I wasn’t complaining or anything telling her these things- they just kind of came out naturally and she recognized that it would be a rough thing for me. That felt really good.
It was a great conversation and I feel so much better after talking to her. I hope that it pushed me and Hubbs to the front of her mind so she can push our profile to the front of the stack! Hehe!
So anyway, today I am not a mom, but I am comforted with the thought that I really will be one day!
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